Victoria Pedretti and the Quest to Being Enough
Victoria Pedretti, best known for her roles in The Haunting of Hill House and the Netflix hit You, has captivated audiences not just through her on-screen presence but also through her vulnerability in interviews like those with StyleLikeU. Her authenticity strikes a chord — whether it mesmerizes or unsettles, it always moves us, tapping into something deeply human.
It made me question the performance. There is such a call to reconnect with our humanity, are we really that disconnected? Watching her interviews, I found myself relating to everything she said and felt — like I was looking into a mirror.
Her conversations on StyleLikeU and Don’t Change a Thing may have taken place years and weeks ago, but they’ve resurfaced at a time when the public’s fascination with her is at an all-time high. It’s not just about her acting skills or the way she consumes her audience — it’s about how she shatters the pristine image we often hold of celebrities, making them feel distant yet untouchably perfect.
Perfectionism and performing is something I felt like I had to do to be deserving, to feel seen and not weird. I’ve spent the last decade trying to move beyond it and feel settled in who I am. It’s not easy. We crave acceptance, and often, being yourself comes with the responsibility of being alone. It’s dismanteling everything we were taught to be “okay” in life. To face external labels that had made us comfortable for so long.
To many, watching Victoria is like witnessing a raw unmasking — a rare glimpse into identity, humanity, and connection. It’s identifying that the labels we put on ourselves can build a disconnect between who we are and who we think we are. She’s approachable yet accomplished, a sensitive, and emotional woman, unafraid to show up as her full self. She openly shares her fear of being boxed in, seen as weird, or misunderstood, and that honesty resonates deeply. It challenges us to reconsider how we perceive people on the screen versus in real life. It creates a witnessing inside ourselves to feel, even when moments are imperfect.
I felt an unexpected connection watching her speak — seen, even. Here was someone I’d never met, yet her words and presence felt comforting, validating. It wasn’t just an interview; it was a conversation about trauma, fears, desires, and the complexities of being human. She shed layers, clothes, and pretenses, revealing herself without the weight of perception. It made me wonder: do we need more stories of disempowerment? To detach from culturally relevant ideas of power and strength? Sensitivity is an incredible privilege that spotlight as strange most of the time.
Victoria’s story not foreign — an actress struggling with feeling “enough,” known for her intense roles and candid public persona. Her recent rise to fame has made it hard to imagine You without her presence, yet she continues to defy the expectations that Hollywood and society try to impose on her. She somehow has cultivated the ability to show up authentically despite the accolades she receives and fame she is surrounded by.
Her vulnerability circumvents the typical celebrity veneer, reminding us that the most relatable quality is often imperfection. As a woman who has struggled with feeling too much or misunderstood, I connect with Victoria’s story of navigating the tension between powerful independence and the profound loneliness that sensitivity can bring. Everything we’re programmed to be is the opposite of that. We’re made to feel like we’re never enough. It has made me wonder about the “undesirable” traits of women that has created some of us to overcompensate or abandon completely to fit into a narrative written for us. It’s freeing, actually. To allow ourselves to be sensitive and vulnerable. To be a mess. To cry. To feel our feelings in pursuit of resurfacing. To step off the track of everything outside of ourselves that we’ve given permission to validate ourselves.
Victoria’s openness about her journey — from embracing her sensitivity to challenging her comfort zones — offers a powerful message for us all. As she continues to be consumed by an industry that often overlooks this raw humanness, she remains a poignant reminder of how vital it is to hold onto our humanity, even when the world demands a performance. To continue feeling because it’s nature, to find deservingness and beauty from just being in the world.
I think about how often women are asked to prove their value, to “perform” to feel worthy. In Victoria, I see a reflection of the struggle — and the power — in daring to be enough just as we are.